You don’t have to be interested in S&M to reap the sexual rewards of being an assertive lover Femdom mistress seattle. Find out how to tidy up your boyfriend in the bedroom and make sure he loves every minute of it!
What is it about dominant women that makes men go? gaga ? Do men really want us to take the lead and assert our power in the bedroom?
The secret is that it is confidence that attracts most men. It’s not that they want to be bossed around, told what to do and where to put it, unless they’re really into S&’M.
Regular men love to see a woman who knows that she is in control and feels good about herself. She is sexy, she is a tease, she is totally hot ! Let me show you how it’s done.
The assertive woman
A boyfriend of mine, who was a little older than me, once told me that most of the women he was attracted to in the past were older than him and sexually dominant. He often asked me what he saw in me then!
He was young and quite reserved when it came to anything sexual, and certainly not aggressive. In the end I realized that it was more than just a dominant woman that turned him on; She was a confident woman, a confident woman, someone who controls her world, and I was all of these things , probably you too !
He admired me for that. With that knowledge, I thought I could bring that confidence into the room quite naturally. It was about feeling good about myself and knowing what I want.
The fantasy of a dominant, sexually assertive woman can extend to anyone or anyone: she may be older and more experienced, she may be someone’s boss, she may be a control freak who likes to have things her way.
On the other hand, you can also be young and innocent but confident in your virginal ways: a man may also find it sexy when you assert your boundaries.
So basically, no matter who you are or what you are, YOU are perfectly capable of playing the role of a sexy dominatrix lover, in your own sweet and sexy way. We are going to explore.
- Choose your seductive outfit
Traditionally, a Dominatrix wears black leather or PVC because it is raw and suggests a creature that is a bit dangerous, someone you shouldn’t mess with.
If you want to have fun and take on this traditional role, look for something fitted with strong lines that makes you feel powerful and accentuates all your best assets.
Deadly-looking high heels are a must, and anything that reveals your cleavage, waist, and legs is perfect. Alternatively, you could go for any outfit that looks like someone in control; for example, a police officer outfit, a sexy and revealing business suit: don’t forget those heels ! You could even go for a gothic vampire, or something completely out of this world, an outfit from the future?
Remember : The goal is to look for something that makes you feel good and turns it into; Even if it’s simply a sensual lingerie under a silk robe that you can open to reveal yourself any time you want, because you are in control! The anticipation will drive you crazy.
A traditional dominatrix would typically wear her hair in a harsh, no-nonsense style, pulled back away from her face in a high, slick ponytail that falls straight down her back. She wants him to be able to see all of her faces so that she can clearly see the pleasure or displeasure she wishes to express to him.
Makeup is usually dark, dramatic and seductive. Hot red lips and nails add to the fantasy and eroticism. Raise your eyes to make them endearing, or alternatively wear a sexy mask to add to the drama and mystery! Some women find it easier to take control behind a mask, and couples often find it easier to separate themselves from their everyday roles when they can’t see each other’s faces.
Shoes are important. Will you wear knee-high boots with pointy heels for height and authority, to march around and dig into his back as punishment? Or will you go barefoot and make him kiss and massage your toes in submissive, loving adoration?
- Let him know your place immediately
For it to work, he has to know exactly what to expect from you and what you expect from him. A good way to do this without having to explain your role is to keep it low.
Adopt an accessory that you can use playfully to drive the message home. You can use anything from whips and riding crops designed for dominant/submissive play, or whatever you find around the house.
- prepare your accessories
There are tons of toys and accessories you can bring to the game. It may be a good idea to have thought about a few beforehand, and what you could do with them, so that you don’t end up losing your cool, sexy dominatrix attitude in vital moments. Here are some ideas … - Handcuffs or scarves to tie him up.
- A variety of textured tools to probe you.
- Whip-type objects to reprimand him.
- Fruits or other sensual foods to reward him.
- Feathers and brushes to torment and mock him.
- Ice cubes and/or candle wax for pleasure/pain boundaries.
- Blindfold and/or gag to limit your senses.
- Music and candles to set the stage.
- Vibrators and dildos for your Pleasure.
- Prepare your action plan
Having a sequence of tasks prepared will help guide you through your Dominatrix session with confidence.
You should start with simple tasks that establish the mistress/slave relationship between the two of you. If you do this, it will help you transition into your Dominatrix role, and it will also help him accept it.
Tasks are generally things you ask your sub to do for you. The trick with homework is to make sure the goal is to give him pleasure or please him first , but that you also provide rewards for him while you do it. Keep in mind that these rewards must be sexual in nature.
But how can it be pleasant for him to be in charge?
It’s simple, the trick is to restrict your overall pleasure and only allow yourself to experience the pleasure little by little so that you appreciate every bit even more. For example, if you want him to lick your nipples, make sure he can’t see you or that his hands can’t touch you.
His task is only to lick your nipples, anything else is disobedience and he must be reprimanded with a touch on his back or butt with your punishment prop, which he will probably like too! It’s exciting because it’s a game of discipline, and everything is very erotic !
Here are some ideas to get started …
- Instruct him to give you a foot massage, but spread your legs wide and reward him with a clear view of your intimate area.
- Ask him to delight you blindfolded.
- Have him stand in front of a mirror and not look back, then undress into his next outfit behind him so he can only see you in the reflection.
- Place him on his knees and lead him around the room with a collar and leash, describing the following task.
- Tell her to prepare a platter of fresh cut fruit for you and sit on the kitchen counter in stockings and suspenders, no panties or bra. He is not allowed to touch you, but his reward is admiring your curvy feminine body.